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How To Deal With Disappointment

The blessing of the LORD makes a person rich, and he adds no sorrow with it.

(Proverbs 10:22)

As I was led to write about dealing with disappointments this scripture kept revolving in my mind, though I ignored it the first few times. The reason was simple; I could not write about dealing with disappointment and in the same space say that the Lord’s blessing makes a person rich and does not add sorrow to it. The contrast, like oil mixed with water, was glaring.

This is one of those scriptures that can leave you with more questions than answers or cause someone to question the truth of Holy scriptures, because it is clear that life is littered with many sorrows and disappointments.

I must admit that this piece was so difficult to write so I delayed and delayed, waiting for some other inspiration because I guess I wasn’t up to the challenge to write about something for which even I was unclear. However, I eventually surrendered to God, put my fingers to the keyboard and let the Holy Spirit do His work.

Disappointment is like no other. It is the emotional outcome of unmet expectations and quashed dreams. It can be a sinking feeling of unfairness when things don’t pan out as we’d hoped.

As I thought about the many disappointments that I’ve endured in the past, I see why this scripture came to mind and shifted my perspective.

God Continues to Bless Us

Despite the disappointments we have faced, are facing and will continue to face in the future, it is an unshakable truth that God is constantly blessing us. The disappointment you may have faced is not the only thing that has happened in your life. The thing about disappointment is that it can be so consuming that it can cause one to lose sight of all the other blessings that are around.

I am reminded of a scripture in 2 Chronicles 16:9 which says, “For the eyes of the LORD run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him.” The Lord is actively searching for ways to bless us, to increase us and make us prosper. The Book of 3 John 1:2 says, “I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” If something did not happen as you desired, it doesn’t mean that God isn’t still abundantly blessing you in other ways.

He wishes that we turn our eyes from the disappointment and thank him for all His blessings, because He is never low on supply of His goodness and He requires us to see and know that He is constantly blessing us. In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18 NKJV)

We are Rich

There is always that gnawing thing that we feel we need that will make us happy. Yet the blessings He gives us are of the eternal and spiritual kind that gives us the type of wealth that death cannot steal. The Apostle Paul wrote to the Ephesians saying, All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ.” (Ephesians 1:3) Our perspective must be one that says that the blessings of God are akin to precious treasure, even when it doesn’t feel like it. For wisdom is far more valuable than rubies. Nothing you desire can compare with it. (Proverbs 8:11 NLT)

“How much better to get wisdom than gold! To get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver.” (Proverbs 16:6 ESV)

“For wisdom is more profitable than silver, and her wages are better than gold. Wisdom is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare with her. She offers you long life in her right hand, and riches and honor in her left. She will guide you down delightful paths; all her ways are satisfying. Wisdom is a tree of life to those who embrace her; happy are those who hold her tightly.” (Proverbs 3:14-18 NLT)

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” (Proverbs 9:10 NIV)

Finally, Romans 11:33 NLT says, “Oh, how great are God’s riches and wisdom and knowledge!”

All these Proverbs and many other scriptures that point to the richness of knowing God, are our foundation and our reassurance that whatever we missed, lost, or was snatched from us, are to be viewed from the perspective that God is the wisest of the wise and the richest of the rich. Because He longs to bless you, your disappointments will only be temporary and He will continue to bless you with so much more than you can imagine.

No Sorrow Is Added

Firstly, when God blesses, he blesses completely and irrevocably. There is no wager and no strings attached because he blesses perfectly. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” (James 1:17 NIV)

God is not like man; He does not barter with His blessings. At some point we would have all wagered with God. It sounds something like, ‘Lord if you do this for me, then I will… or I promise not to…' (Fill in the blanks). His blessings are not conditional and they certainly do not require work on our part to receive it. He blesses us out of His abundance and His goodness, and because He is a faithful and loving Father. We live under this new covenant of grace, that is, unmerited, undeserved, unearned favour of God. He gives because of His goodness and not our own. I can’t say this enough, He gives because HE IS GOOD.

God won’t give us blessings and then burden us with hundreds of obligations to keep it. That era is over. This new paradigm of grace through Jesus, is the living embodiment that God blesses us, redeemed us and there was no sorrow added because it was Jesus who suffered and died in our place.

It is true that we must properly steward everything He has blessed us with, whether it is our relationships, our jobs or our investments; but the ability to do so requires wisdom and understanding, which is also graced by God.

Ultimately, this is the biggest take away, God’s blessings are constant and enriching for this life and for eternity, and when He gives, it is unconditional, perfect and complete. I can certainly testify that some disappointments are actually blessings in disguise because the Lord had reserved something much better for me.

The next time you are facing any disappointment, remember that God is actively seeking ways to bless you and that you never have to do anything to earn it or work to keep it.

Love ya!

Krystal Baynes-Hoseinee

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